Becoming a Balanced Bride – 6 Tips to Prevent Wedding Planning Stress

So the ring is on your finger. You’ve set a bunch of the plans in motion, found the perfect gown, asked your girls to stand up for you, chosen the flowers, and booked the venue. Suddenly, you notice that you’re a little distracted- jumpy, touchy, snarky and snippy… just, off balance. There’s still so much left to DO and you’re starting to feel a little overwhelmed. How are you supposed to stay on top of these details, deal with the sudden influx of in-law issues (I know, your future mother in law was *totally normal* before you got engaged! She’ll probably settle down, I promise), manage your social life AND oh yeah, work full time? It’s surely enough to drive a girl batty!

Maybe a mini-bridezilla is about to rear her ugly head. Or maybe we can head that all off at the pass with a few simple stress-relieving tips.

1) Eat well and drink PLENTY of water. I know, you’re busy! But eating a well balanced diet filled with plenty of fruits, veggies, whole grains and lean protein helps keep you properly fueled, and the right amount of energy helps with the natural stress response. Make sure you’re staying hydrated as well. Drink water, iced tea, whatever you need to stave off thirst. Avoid empty calories though- your body and your skin will thank you!

2) Get enough sleep. What “enough” is of course depends on the person, but it’s probably safe to say that staying up until 3am every morning reading wedding blogs is not going to help your stress levels. 7-9 hours a night is a good range. A tired bride is an unhappy bride, and your psyche will thank you for getting enough shut-eye!

3) Get up and exercise! Do a little yoga, Pilates, go for a jog, head to the gym and take out your frustration in a kickboxing class (imagine that bag is your latest annoyance), shake your booty in Zumba, walk, dance, whatever gets you moving! Research has shown that the chemicals released during exercise help boost mood and improve brain function. I know I always feel better after a nice workout.

4) Don’t give up your social life. Keep your girls’ night out dates- spend time with your besties talking about everything EXCEPT the wedding. Shop, go dancing, have a spa day- do something fun that will take your mind off the many decisions that will need to be made. Goodness knows they want to stop hearing about the wedding just as much as you’d like to stop thinking about it!

5) Get away from it all. Take a break from the planning. Turn off the laptop, put the iPhone on silent, and go out with your fiance and just spend time together. Talk about something OTHER than the wedding. After all, you’re planning your life together- not just a wedding. Go out to eat and catch a movie, head out to people-watch, or just stroll along holding hands. Reconnect! Really enjoy each other and remember why you’re going through all this stress in the first place!

6) Ask for help and delegate. In my opinion, this is the best stress reliever! I know it’s hard, but it can take a huge weight off your shoulders if you hand over a few wedding related tasks to a responsible friend or family member. Planning a wedding can take up to 300 hours (depending on size and such)- why would you want to go it alone? Of course it’s your day but you should enjoy this process- not strain under the burden of it all! So hand a few things over and breathe a sigh of relief!

Bonus Tip: If you’re still feeling the pressure and feel like you might pop, it might be time to call in the big guns! A huge part of a professional planner’s job is to help you de-stress, take on what you’d rather not, and even talk you through those joyous in-law issues. Their goal is to get you down the aisle calm, cool and fabulous, with your sanity intact.

The stress that comes with wedding planning is about more than just the size of the event. It’s more than just the cost. Marriage is a huge life-changing event. The engagement period needs to be more than just the buffer between being in a relationship and being permanently attached. It’s really designed to help you adjust to the idea of being married. Following the steps above will help create the space you need in your life to process that adjustment.

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Wedding Blogs

Why Do An Article On Just Wedding Blogs?

Simple, wedding blogs are the only type of blogs I view, so these are the only types of blogs I can comment on, and also I have come to realise that many people do not realise that wedding blogs are another form of web directory of services/vendors.

How Are Wedding Blogs Like Business Directories?

Wedding blogs come across to the uninitiated as an individual raving about a particular service or image or venue, or they focus on the personal aspect of the actual couples involved. This is seemingly as it seems, someone expressing their passions on their chosen subject matter, but is it?

How Wedding Blogs Work.

Wedding blogs are a business! There is a reason why any particular wedding blog looks stylish and professional, and this is because it is a business. The successful well known blogs can sell advertising spaces in various sizes and prevalence. Some blogs will insist on a certain style of image to be used for a vendors advert but in most cases, an advertiser has a free hand.

So? So what you are asking?

Well, the really interesting bit is not the adverts on the wedding blog, but the actual blog posts. Look over any wedding blog post and you will see a reference to a wedding vendor of some description, some times this can be due to just copyright, but in the majority of cases the actual URL or website/company/vendor mentioned in the blog will be the vendor who has paid for that blog post to be made!

Hold on your saying, if a vendor is paying for a blog entry, surely they would want their name/business/website mentioned many times and also a thorough breakdown of who they are, what they offer etc?

Yes of course they will want all that, and so a vendor can pay for that type of blog entry, which is called a “sponsored listing”. In sponsored listings the vendor can go to town with a fully detailed explanation of who they are and what they offer, and in most cases the wedding blogger will opt for the “interview” with these types of “sponsored listings”. But more often and not, wedding vendors will opt for the more normal blog post.

Why Do Wedding Blogs Do this, And Not Just A Traditional Detailed Advert?

Well advertising works at its very best in this particular field of weddings, because Brides to be and Grooms to be are looking for vendors via a referral method. If a third party writes an excellent referral about a wedding vendor, then a Bride to be or Groom to be will be satisfied that the vendor in question there for must be a safe bet.

In the world of weddings, this type of subtle advertising is seen as working really well, and also it is priced cheaper in real terms than a simple advert.

Why Do Vendors Choose To Pay For Blog Posts And Not Just Adverts?

An advert will be removed once the contract time has passed, where as a blog post will remain on that blog forever, or until the blogger ceases to pay for their server/quits blogging.

The aspect of a blog post remaining for a long time, over the short term of an advert is very important to a vendor. Because any vendor website wants to be higher in Google, and one of the main very important factors in promoting a website to Google is gaining links to that vendors website.

But lets be clear about this, not just any link, Google’s algorithms are looking for quality link backs to a vendors website, and there is no better quality link for most wedding vendors than a link from a wedding blog which is specialising in their chosen field of weddings! The only other type of links that would be fantastic for a wedding vendor or any business, is a link from a big website, such as BBC for instance.

Blogs have been around for only a short time, and they will massively increase in numbers and in time people will realise that a blogger is there, just as a business directory is, to sell, sell, sell, but in a informative, entertaining, possibly stylish way.

The most successful wedding bloggers will write in a way that the reader should feel informed and entertained and not consciously realise they are in fact reading a sales pitch.

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